Tuesday, November 3, 2009

The three realms of life

People writing about health and happiness often speak of "balance." But what exactly is it that we are trying to balance?

Typically, we readers typically are told about balancing our diet or balancing our budget. Let's take a step back from these specifics for a moment and look at the bigger picture.

A life lived well occurs when there is balance in and between each of these three realms: the physical, the emotional and the spiritual.

Over the next few days we are going to discuss each of these (as well as the interrelationship of these) realms of life. We'll start with the PHYSICAL realm -- in part because this is the area in which we can most easily relate. This is the tangible realm.

As an aside, I think part of our problem these days is that life is SO busy that most people have a hard enough time trying to balance just the day-to-day things in the physical world. Then, when and if there is energy, time, or conscious thinking of it, we may delve into one of the other realms.

Is that not accurate? When's the last time you asked someone about the topic and they said, "Oh, no! I'm not busy at all!" It just doesn't happen!

So another thing we'll need to talk about soon is PRIORITY SETTING and more about TIME MANAGEMENT.

In the meantime, have a happy moment right now...

Monday, November 2, 2009


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Sunday, November 1, 2009

What are blogs?

Blogs are different things for different people.

For me, this Happy Blogger blogspot is a place to express some of the tidbits that I hope will stretch someone else's mind as well as give me the opportunity to reflect and stretch my own.

As of the last decade, the plasticity of the human brain has become well documented. Unfortunately the stubbornness of the human spirit is doubly well documented -- over millennia.

Human attitudes - and therefore human behaviour - are what they are. The reductionist argument can be brought in to bring everything down to sodium and potassium channels between cells. But the fact remains: if we want to change something about our selves or about the world in which we live, we have to start WITH OURSELVES.

The general rule of thumb in fixing a psychotherapeutic problem is: the longer the problem has been in place, the longer it is going to take to make changes. (And if you like the wiring description of the brain as illustrated in the documentary "What the Bleep do we know," then it is the neuronal contacts that have to be changed -- and this takes repetition over time. Remember: neurons that fire together, wire together.)

This is true on a societal level, too. Unfortunately, greed and selfishness rule the better part of many peoples' lives. How many times have we heard the saying, "I've got my rights!"

Talk about PLATITUDES!

Collectively and individually, what are our responsibilities?