Thursday, June 9, 2011

Is this where I need to be?

Life has an awkward way of telling us that we are not where we should be.

Sometimes the message comes loudly and dramatically -- like when the pink slip comes.

Other times the message is far more subtle. Perhaps we notice sweaty palms or a dry mouth.

Not feeling comfortable in our own skill is a very valuable bit of information. But what we DO with and about that information is what separates winners from non-winners.

What do I mean?

Think of it this way. You know that feeling when wearing a short sleeved shirt and the sun goes down and the breeze picks up? Goosebumps, right? Shivering...maybe even chattering of teeth if it is REALLY cold enough?

Okay, so what do we do when we feel cold? Usually, if there is something we can do about it, we make a change: we either put on a sweater or coat...or perhaps we turn up the heat...we come inside from being out in the cold...Maybe we jump up and down to get warm blood to our extremities...or maybe we snuggle with someone to create some body heat...or maybe we rely on some other type of intervention.

Bottom line, we tend to DO something.

Having been cold, we then use our experience to prevent the problem from re-occurring: we take a sweater with us next time we're in those circumstances again -- bottom line, we learn from the past and use that information in a protective way for the future.

Now...drum roll please....

What if I was to suggest that emotions are just another form of information? What if fear or sadness could be seen in the same light as goosebumps from a cold temperature?

Think about it. When we come in from the cold, do we typically get really upset and take it to heart? Or do we just do what we need to do to warm up?

Do we presume that God is out to get us because we got cold? Do we presume that people don't like us or that something horrible is going to happen to us?

No. We just do what we need to do.

Now, apply this to your life....

When you next feel worried or upset or sad, ask yourself: "What do I need to do to feel better?"

Then, so long as your answer is not self destructive and not against the law, do what you need to do.

Then let me know how this works for you...either in the comments below or on twitter @CoreOfHappiness.

Good luck!

Wednesday, June 8, 2011

Vancouver Fan Pictured in Beantown

AP News (Boston): June 8, 2011

This photo of a young Vancouverite in Boston for Game 4 of the NHL Finals says it all.

Boston pacified Vancouver in the TD Garden by a solid 4-0, leaving Vancouver fans speechless, if not drooling.

The search for Stanley's Cup returns to the West Coast on Friday at 8pm Eastern as the Bruins evened the series at two games a piece.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

The HOW of Happiness!

"Keep your eyes on the prize!"

How many times have we all heard that one?

One of the inherent problems with this phrase is that it tends to get people focused on the WHAT of happiness, the STUFF of happiness.

People think about how to get the stuff that makes them feel good and somehow believe that doing so gives them the happiness they are seeking.

Of course, as the wonderful phrase goes, "anyone who thinks having a lot of money can buy happiness clearly has never had a lot of money."

This highlights a rather serious, if not academic, point. Happiness is of two types-- the "what" type and the "how" type.

In "The Core of Happiness," I've suggested that the STUFF of life provides for roughly 10% of our overall happiness.

This fits with the notion, repeated in survey after survey, that the richest are not necessarily the happiest.

So what's this about the "How" of happiness?

Through what lens do you look at life? Are you optimistic?

My eye doctor -- now she's an optimist!

(Sorry, I couldn't resist that one.)

Do you look for the good in others, in well as in yourself?

Are you able to enjoy detours?

If your answer to any of the above is less than a full "thumbs up," consider practicing more of living in the moment.

Living in the moment is the art of opening and savouring the greatest gift of all time: the present.

We'll continue to discuss this...but, for now, don't hesitate to post your thoughts below. Share with us your greatest detours -- either on a road journey or on the path of life... And feel free to contact me directly @CoreOfHappiness on Twitter.

Monday, June 6, 2011

Big Bad Bruins are BACK!

I'm going to date myself here with this, but when I was a kid, I loved everything about Bobby Orr and the Boston Bruins. The Celtics and Red Sox weren't bad either, but as a Canuck growing up in downtown Toronto, hockey ruled.

Today's the first day in probably over two decades that I watched quite a bit of a Bruins hockey game....

I missed the first period because of a meeting...and I missed part of the third because of a jog...but oh! wow! what a second period!!

The Bruins, having lost the first two games in close battles, cracked this series wide open with today's 8-1 slaughter of Vancouver.

The Bruins of today are different in respect to level of finesse...but they have the same big hearts I remember them having in the early '70s..... can't live happily without it.

Here's to heart...and here's to the Bruins!

Sunday, June 5, 2011

Creating Happiness!

Happiness is not just a destination, it's also the path we take to get there.

Many people mistakenly look at the "pursuit of happiness" as the chase for faster computers, faster cars, bigger homes, more vacations, and so on.

And, as you've heard me say before, there is nothing intrinsically wrong with a fast computer or a fast car or, for that matter, a laser-driven barbeque that grills chicken in six seconds flat.

But there is something wrong when our desires for those "things" of happiness interfere with or supercede the TRULY important things in life.

What are the TRULY important things in life? I suppose we could debate that for quite a while...but let me suggest - instead of getting to specifics - that the truly important things of life are those things that don't require lots of money, a prestigious job, or even good health, for that matter. (Though that last one may surprise you!)

Do you know what I'm getting at here?

Post your ideas below...or send them to me via Twitter: