Sometimes the message comes loudly and dramatically -- like when the pink slip comes.
Other times the message is far more subtle. Perhaps we notice sweaty palms or a dry mouth.
Not feeling comfortable in our own skill is a very valuable bit of information. But what we DO with and about that information is what separates winners from non-winners.
What do I mean?
Think of it this way. You know that feeling when wearing a short sleeved shirt and the sun goes down and the breeze picks up? Goosebumps, right? Shivering...maybe even chattering of teeth if it is REALLY cold enough?
Okay, so what do we do when we feel cold? Usually, if there is something we can do about it, we make a change: we either put on a sweater or coat...or perhaps we turn up the heat...we come inside from being out in the cold...Maybe we jump up and down to get warm blood to our extremities...or maybe we snuggle with someone to create some body heat...or maybe we rely on some other type of intervention.
Bottom line, we tend to DO something.
Having been cold, we then use our experience to prevent the problem from re-occurring: we take a sweater with us next time we're in those circumstances again -- bottom line, we learn from the past and use that information in a protective way for the future.
Now...drum roll please....
What if I was to suggest that emotions are just another form of information? What if fear or sadness could be seen in the same light as goosebumps from a cold temperature?
Think about it. When we come in from the cold, do we typically get really upset and take it to heart? Or do we just do what we need to do to warm up?
Do we presume that God is out to get us because we got cold? Do we presume that people don't like us or that something horrible is going to happen to us?
No. We just do what we need to do.
Now, apply this to your life....
When you next feel worried or upset or sad, ask yourself: "What do I need to do to feel better?"
Then, so long as your answer is not self destructive and not against the law, do what you need to do.
Then let me know how this works for you...either in the comments below or on twitter @CoreOfHappiness.